Disclaimer: For those in a relationship with an abusive person; not everyone who attends our program ends their abusive behavior. It is not safe, reasonable, or rational to build unrealistic false hopes that someone attending our program will quickly and easily change. Attending our program is not a guarantee you will be safe. We recommend you assume they will not change. So please make choices to keep yourself safe. An abusive person, participating in our program, should be expected to EARN YOUR TRUST BACK by exhibiting non-abusive behavior over an extended period of time.

At Nonviolent Alternatives we are currently conducting research to do our best to attempt to measure the effectiveness and impact of our program. We administer our initial research questionnaire at enrollment. Then we administer follow-up questionnaires approximately once every 6 to 8 weeks while in the program, upon completion of the program, 3 months post completion, 6 months post completion, and one year post completion. All surveys are administered anonymously and confidentially. The last question on the questionnaire is, "Is there anything you would like to let me know about yourself?" The following are comments that have been left:

• I've learned a lot in this class. Repetition works! Diagrams/ norms/ rules/ an excellent facilitation (Mattie) and her stories/lessons all helped. The pictures and diagrams and quotes and "thinking habits that work well" were all very instructive. The 26 week length is key.
• Thanks so much! I have learned so much from this opportunity to educate myself in "Morality 101." I am "teaching" it to my kids by example. I have less struggles with my 2 preteen daughters than I did before I ever attended.
• This course has been incredibly helpful to me and I'm sure it will continue to be for other people.
• This class has helped me and my children in so many ways. Thank you!
• I have enjoyed the class very enlightening, educational, and raw.
• I'm still learning how to understand myself and learning how to not think negative in certain situations.
• This whole process has been very helpful. I am very pleased with these classes.
• Thank you for all of your help with this program. I have found this to be useful in all interactions in life, not just with my wife.
• I have learned a lot in my 11 weeks here and really enjoy coming to class each week. Thanks.
• With 8 months of sobriety, I have come to believe that I too am married to an abusive alcoholic. With that being said, I will not hit her back anymore. I believe that is because of this class, and secondly being sober.
• I have changed in my life style because of these classes. Yes I have come a long way but I still have a long way to go.
• Practicing integrity everyday makes things better every day. The class was awesome.
• When I first came to this class I thought it was a joke and didn't feel I needed it. But after 3 or 4 classes I started seeing myself in the videos and when you can see outside the box and see your actions: Wow what an eye opener. So then you start to take in many things and realize this isn't the person I want to be or for my family to have to be around and so you start to take it all in and it's a long, long road but a road worth traveling and I'm looking so forward to a road of integrity and I know it’s going to be rough but I can't wait for the great outcomes of it. I would recommend and challenge anyone to take this class for yourself and your family. Thank you Terry and Harry!
• My name is (name deleted) and I've come a long way and I really appreciate Harry, and Terry for the tuff love they've showed me since I started these classes, and despite what anyone else says. This is a good program and it helped save my marriage and my life.
• I feel stronger as time moves on and more able to identify abuse and walk in integrity.
• I would like to thank you for your program. This class has been a life changing event for me and my loved ones. I know I made a lot of wrong choices in my life and was in a perfect spot in my life to be put in this class and am proud of myself for my changes. I have become involved in NA and my life has done a 360 from 6 months ago. I enjoyed coming to class every week and hope many more people receive your message you’re putting any more of awareness. Because it is everyone’s own choice to use this information given. Thanks again.
• I'm glad there is a program like this. It has and will help me in the future. Thank you.
• It is a quality program. I will miss NVA.
• I am a better person because of this program by far.
• This program has changed my life in a way that has made me more responsible and considerate and loving to my family and others. Thankx
• I enjoy NVA.
• This class is very educational and I have learned various things that I am using in my life that have helped me a lot.
• It’s a tough road but acting with integrity makes it a short race.
• I hope to become a better person in handling things in my life better after taking this class.
• I really think this class did me a lot of good. I think about everything I say or do before I do it. Mattie is a great teacher.
• Just over 5 months clean and sober. A few things are coming back to me. Less "Brain fog" or "Wet Brain" than a month ago. Lower back molar broke to pieces. Pain is excruciating, no insurance, and no pain killers (by choice on pain meds)
• I believe that trying to control anyone is wrong and to treating people with any other way other than the way I want to be treated is wrong.
• I appreciate the help I have received in the course of this program. Thank you.
• I have learned to think before I act on everything.
• My last class is the last one I have to pay for to keep acting with integrity by coming to more classes. This class is the biggest eye opener of my personal being. To let me know before I'm going to do something wrong to change what I'm going to do. Thanks Terry!
• I've been enjoying life again since I've been taking this class. Thanks.
• NVA Classes = Happiness
• I don't have a partner right now. I'm working on me.
• I really enjoy coming to this class. Terry and Harry have been a big help to me and my attitude.
• This is my last class and ironically it is also 1 year to date that I was arrested for domestic battery. During this past year I have had my ups and downs. I wanted to let you know that in being involved with this program it has helped me realize that I was abusive and that 100% of people are abusive. I have seen myself change as a person, husband, father, son, and friend. I also have realized that I made a bad decision on how I handled the situation in which brought me to this program. I'm also grateful for the experience of the past 26 weeks. It has been a real eye-opener and helped me change myself to make me a better person. I have lost a lot of what I love and value because of my actions. I now realize how stupid I was being worrying and arguing over things that don't really matter in this life. I realize now how good of life I had with my wife and children. But, I made a bad decision and I can either be upset about it or I can turn this whole experience into something positive. I choose to turn it in to something positive. I have taken responsibility for my actions; as soon as I can talk to my wife (when the court allows us to speak to each other) I want to tell her I'm truly sorry and ask for forgiveness. I forgave myself for what I did. I try each and every day to be a man of integrity. To follow the Golden rule, Listen to my P.G.S.(the program refers to our conscience as our Personal Guidance System PGS), stop living in fear, and realize that I can be the only one in this life to be responsible for my thoughts, feelings, actions and accountability. I lived so long thinking in the red, Blame shifting, being abusive and having outcomes that are bad. Now, I have a whole different outlook on life, making right choices, talk to people in a different manner, listen to my PGS, which is part of being a man of integrity. I'm making right choices in my life, holding myself accountable for my actions; I also realize that there are ways to handle situations through non-violent alternatives.
• "There is nothing another person can say or do that can make me say or do something I know in my conscience is wrong" are very good words to live by!! Thanks for the eye opener during the past 7 months Terry!!!
• This class has really helped me.
• I just want to let you know I’m trying and this class is really helping.
• 6 months ago on this day, I was a completely different woman than I am today. I am now clean of drugs and know how to control myself so much more. This class was the best thing that has ever happened to me. Thank you.
• In the last 2 months my wife has tried to turn her life around. I believe it is because she sees a difference in me since I started going to these classes. We discuss what I learn every week on the way home from class. I believe "This Class" really helps.
• Ya I am a changed man.
• To any judge or politician, this class can and does aid in giving myself and others a new outlook on the basic things that we all know to be true. If anyone is ever considered for imprisonment, send them to this class instead. It does help.
• This class has changed me and my actions.
• I enjoy this class. It has really made me think about my situation with my family who love and deeply care for. My wife had an affair with another man because I was never home because all I do is work. When I found out I did everything my conscience told me not to do! I was wrong and this class has helped me realize that. I BS'd my conscience & justified my actions, knowing my action were unethical. I was wrong and I think about the things I did every day. This class is helping make much better decisions. Thank you!
• A whole year ago I started this program. I was a bad attitude, non-caring drug addict when I walked through that door and greeted Terry. A year later when I walked through the same door, I am now a 21 year old woman, who cares about my life and my feelings and others. I am clean of drugs. I have healthy relationships, and boundaries. I own my own car, I have a full time job, and I have my own house, and I LOVE myself now. I would have never thought I could have made it this far in just one year. I am glad that I was court ordered to take this class when I did because it made me the strong woman that I am today, and I am so thankful for the tools that Nonviolent Alternatives has taught me. It really has been a miracle. IT WORKS, if you work it.
• My opinions are reflected on my daily recovery I treat others the way I would like to be treated - including women.
• I think both people in a relationship should take this class if there are problems in their relationships.
• Thanks!
• This course is a great help to my life.
• This class has made a significant impact on my perception of life and relationships. In saying that, I thank you so very much.
• Some answers are based on past experience sometimes it all depends on the other person everyone is different and have different views and opinions But since I've been taking this class I have been more optimistic and thought about things more. Thanks for that.
• I am wanting to be a man of integrity. I want to be happy in life and want to be happy in future relationships. Thank you for this program.
• I love attending these meetings.
• This has been very helpful to me. I "think" before making bad decisions. I want to keep thinking this way.
• This class has been the best thing I could have ever done. I wish I would have learned about the class before I finally got in trouble for it. I don't feel I have mastered what is being taught and I plan to come back to continue to participate. I feel my habit level thinking is my biggest problem. I heard somewhere that to change a habit that you have to perform the new habit you’re trying to replace it with up to 2000 times. I thank you for everything. I only think that this class should be longer.
• Thank u guys for helping me with some of my problems. And I mean by that is taking responsibility for my shit that I do now that was the biggest thing for me to do. Thanks.
• Nonviolent Alternatives works for me and works for everyone wanting to give it a try at the very least.
• I do find these classes very interesting. Learning things about integrity I never knew.
• I'm almost done with the course and I see myself using the things I have learned quite frequently.
• Well this is my second time through the course. I didn't care all that much the first time but this time I really listened and paid attention and sat up front. I participated a lot more and learned so much about myself. I really thank you very much it has changed my life. Thank you!
• I've learned quite a few useful things that I will try to use in my daily life. Thanks.
• Thanks for helping me and my family. It really means a lot to all of us.
• Thanx Kim!
• Yo this class really helped me. I'm so much happier in my life!
• I'm a good person and thanks for the class.